Narcissistic Abuse & The Neurodivergent Soul: A Spiritual & Psychological Perspective To This Divine Soul Lesson

Narcissistic abuse makes you question your reality, doubt your worth, and stay in a cycle where love feels like something you have to earn.

For neurodivergent people, this experience cuts even deeper.

We already experience the world differently. We feel energy intensely, often before words are even spoken. Our emotions are deep, our intuition is sharp, and our ability to absorb the emotions of others can be overwhelming. Many of us grew up masking, learning to suppress or alter parts of ourselves to fit in. A narcissist senses this and exploits it. They use our empathy, our sensitivity, and our deep need for connection as tools for their control.

If you’ve been through this, know this: healing isn’t just possible—it’s necessary- it's time to level up!

And it starts with understanding why this happened, why you stayed, and how you can break free for good.

Where Did You Learn That You Deserved This?

Ask yourself: Who first taught me about love? Who set the standard for how much I’m allowed to ask for? How did mum and dad interact with each other?

Narcissistic abuse often mirrors early childhood dynamics. Did you grow up feeling unseen? Did you crave the love of a parent who was emotionally unavailable? Were you taught that love was conditional—something you had to earn by being useful, quiet, or pleasing?

If so, the narcissist fit into that familiar wound perfectly. Not because you were weak or broken, but because your nervous system recognised the pattern.

What Did the Abuse Confirm That You Already Believed?

Ask yourself: Did I already feel like I was too much, not enough? Too sensitive, a problem child? Hard to love, not deserving?

Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just create wounds—it exploits the ones that already exist. If you already feared abandonment, they used it to keep you small. If you already doubted your worth, they reinforced that belief.

The cycle continues until you stop and ask: What part of me believed them?

This isn’t about blame. It’s about taking your power back. Because once you realise these wounds existed before the narcissist arrived, you understand: the work isn’t about them.

It’s about healing the part of you that thought you deserved this.

Neurodivergence & Narcissistic Abuse: Why It Affects You More

Ask yourself: Have I always absorbed the emotions of others? Have I always been hyper-aware of people’s moods? Did I feel responsible for keeping the peace?

For neurodivergent people—especially autistic, ADHD, and highly empathic individuals—narcissistic abuse is even more devastating. We feel energy so deeply that we often don’t know where others end and we begin- but with awarness and practice you can learn this.

A narcissist’s shame, self-doubt, and insecurity didn’t belong to you—but you may have carried them anyway.

Healing means releasing what was never yours to hold.

Codependency: What Did You Get from the Narcissist? (The be 'honest with yourself' bit)

Ask yourself: Did they make me feel needed? Did they give me a sense of purpose—through caretaking, fixing, or proving my worth?

This is the hardest part to admit. Because for many of us, the narcissist gave us something. Maybe they made you feel seen, even if it was manipulation. Maybe they made you feel needed, even if it drained you. Maybe they provided a distraction from your own wounds—by keeping you so focused on them, you didn’t have to look at yourself.

But at what cost?

You cannot heal while you’re still trying to prove your worth to someone who refuses to see it- you are the person you've been looking for.

Breaking the Cycle: What Is Your Soul Asking You to Learn?

Ask yourself: Why did this experience show up in my life? What is it trying to teach me? What must I change so this never happens again?

The narcissist wasn’t just an accident in your life. They were a lesson. A painful one, yes. But a lesson in boundaries, self-worth, and choosing yourself.

You don’t need to fix anyone.You don’t need to earn love.You don’t need to make yourself small to be accepted.

Your soul is calling you to step into your power.

Healing: Reconnecting with Yourself, God, and the Divine

Healing from narcissistic abuse means rebuilding your sense of self. And for neurodivergent people, that means unmasking. It means returning to who you were before the world told you you couldn't.

It also means finding a love bigger than yourself.

God, Mother Earth, your ancestors, your guides.

When you heal, you no longer seek external validation from others. You become your own source of safety, love, and truth and connect to your intuition again.

Finding Compassion—For Yourself & The Generations Before You

Ask yourself: What wounds did my parents carry? How far back does this cycle go?

Narcissistic wounds don’t start with one person. They are generational trauma passed down through bloodlines.

Their pain became your pain.

Until someone decides to end it.

That someone is you.

Do this—not for them, but for you.

You Are Not Who They Told You You Were

You are not crazy. You are not too sensitive.You are not unworthy of love.

You are powerful.You are intuitive.You are breaking the cycle.

Healing can be messy, painful, and lonely.

But on the other side is something extraordinary:

Freedom.

Peace.

Love that isn’t conditional or manipulative—but whole and real.

Your higher-self and soul will not let you settle in this- it knows whats on the other side of healing and is calling you forward.